One kiss can tell a lot.
Chemistry, sexual compatibility and emotional connections all plays an important role in the development of a relationship. Can you do one without the other? Most likely so, but the question of the day is — will you be truly happy?
I’ve been on great dates with different people before, it’s the kind where you can “click” and “connect” in great conversations with the person and the time just kinda flies by. But slowly through experience I learnt to differentiate that this doesn’t necessarily meant that we are compatible to be a “couple” as they’re more aspects to take into considerations than just the emotional connection and I certainly don’t think that it’s a negative thing to go after what genuinely makes you happier.
I remembered having this conversation with a close friend of mine, I was faced with my own set of dilemma and he just popped a simple question to me-
“Can you wake up daily next to the person, see the person face and feel happy about it?
If you can live with it, then yes you can go ahead with this relationship”
As shallow as it sounds to me at the point in time. But as I did some deeper thinking & digging within myself about his question, it started making tons of sense to me.
If you can’t bear to wake up next to the person daily then this “person” is obviously not going to be your “forever” person.
That bring me back to my title — you can tell a lot with just one kiss. I’ve my fair share of experience in kissing (no shame in that), with some the sparks just kinda fly naturally. It’s just this smooth flow of compatibility, zero awkwardness and you just kinda know it when you know it.
That leads to my second point, with some there’s just no forcing it. Everything just feels off, as much as you hate to admit it you just feel the lack of passion in the kiss. Yes, that’s the awkward and uncomfortable kind of kiss I’m talking about.
It’s nobody’s fault really, you were not meant for everybody nor was everybody meant for you.
It’ll only be doing yourself and the other party a disadvantage to try to make things work because passion and compatibility isn’t something that you can just conjure out of thin air. By staying in the relationship when you’re feeling all these emotional burden and stress will only lead to more unhappiness in the long run. What if one day you meet someone that you deem as more “compatible” , will you end up hurting the person more when you break it off eventually?
If something is meant to be, it will be .
